This article in NYTimes tells us that a number of gymnasts who worked out with coach and trainer Qi Han at Everest Gymnastics in North Carolina now allege that Mr. Han was abusive.
He absolutely was. That’s how you do sports in the ultra-competitive U.S.A. This is accepted as the way you drive young athletes to higher levels of performance. Did you think your child’s coach was going to offer snacks as a reward?
I was on a collegiate hockey team in the Chicago area back in 1974. We were coached by a Canadian history professor in a very relaxed, undisciplined manner. It was decided– by somebody– that we would bring in a “real” coach for one practice, a Mr. Dave Vandenberg. He immediately took to yelling and screaming abusively at us, trying to get us to play better. I thought he was an idiot then, and I think so now. I’m sure we would have played better had he hung around and coached us every day, but I just didn’t care that much. Sports is trivial. It is unimportant. If you think it’s a way to bring glory to yourself, to make money, and become famous, then you get what you deserve.
Let’s make it clear. Everest Gymnastics advertised itself to parents as an intensive training institution that could help young gymnasts improve their performances. Do you know what kind of training we’re talking about, in ultra-competitive America? Would it surprise you to find that coaches of any serious athletic discipline tend to be pricks? That they shout at athletes and belittle them, and ridicule them, and mock them when they feel they are not making enough effort?
I have never been a fan of that school of thought that believes that there is something admirable in pushing athletes to perform better by screaming at them. Why? Why should I care if they perform better? Is it worth it? What’s the point? To beat some other athletes whose coaches yell and scream at them?
You send your child to Everest Gymnastics just so he or she can have fun. The children taking training from Qi Han are probably being pushed by their parents to achieve, achieve, achieve. To be better than the competition. This kind of coaching requires a lot of time and money. Parents are up early, up late, driving here, driving there– if they have several children, they find themselves spending a lot of time and money trying to turn their children in to star athletes. Medals. Success. Maybe the Olympics. Maybe the NFL. Money and fame.
Are any of these parents under the delusion that these coaches are going to be nice to their children? Sweet, and encouraging?
Are these coaching methods a secret? The parents didn’t know what was going on? Suddenly one day they went, “oh my god! Coach Han is yelling at my daughter!”
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